Dating for 8 months

by  |  17-Aug-2016 17:17

We have a great relationship and I do not really have any worries when it comes to us being together for the long haul — except he has a friend who he was very close with in high school and he still talks to her now.

dating for 8 months-89dating for 8 months-73dating for 8 months-49

I told him I know I have picked a lot of fights; however, texting other girls was not something I would be OK with.

We've been great since, but dealing with newly diagnosed anxiety causes me to worry a lot.

My boyfriend and I've been together for nine months, and we've not had sex. I've asked him about it and he says he generally waits awhile before having sex. I feel confident about our relationship, I know he truly loves and wants to be with me but I feel like nine months is a little long to wait, like he doesn't want me sexually. I always say that “normal” and “abnormal” aren’t terribly useful labels. In other words, your boyfriend isn’t a freak who’s weird or strange or deceptive just because he’s waiting. Maybe he’s dealing with some difficult sexual history. My boyfriend and I have been dating three years but the last four months have been rough.

No two people are ever in a relationship that’s “normal” — or average — in every way. Your boyfriend could have valid reasons for taking it slow. Maybe he’s insecure or young or just very cautious. Since, I've been diagnosed with anxiety and believe this to be the root of most of our problems.

Talking about your feelings and fears isn’t a sign of weakness or craziness or vulnerability. It says that you’re confident enough to confront your fears — and your boyfriend, in this case.

Community Discussion