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“You can learn more about someone in a 5-minute conversation than you’ll learn spending 20 minutes reading and trying to interpret their dating profile,” Merrill said.
He said online dating can be a good tool, but only if it’s used as such.
“It really takes away the magic when you show up for a date and it feels like you’re walking in with your resume, bloodwork and credit score ready for review,” he said.
“I’ve never seen anywhere else in the world where people are so involved with their technology all the time,” said Merrill, a Bay Area native.
“It atrophies a person’s ability to connect face-to-face.” This face-to-face strategy is something even dating apps have begun to champion, with some going as far as to host events and partner with other apps and services, like Yelp, to coordinate dinner plans.
The Bay Area’s over-reliance on technology and the pervasive belief that everything — even romance — can be solved with an app or lines of code is often the biggest hurdle Merrill faces when helping clients.