So maybe you’ve had a few dates with a potential love interest. But you’ve been here before with others in the past, and it hasn’t always worked out.
You’ve swapped stories, moaned about work, admired each other’s music taste. So how do you know if there’s something there, if it’s worth sticking with them to see where it goes? Writer and self-help guru Mark Manson has proposed a pretty simple test for this: The Law of ‘Fuck Yes or No.’ In brief, you shouldn’t commit any time to someone unless they inspire you to say ‘Fuck Yes’ – and you’re inspiring them to say ‘Fuck Yes’ in return.
The spark is not to be confused with meeting someone and genuinely liking him or her, even though you can’t see yourself dating this person.
This person is funny, nice to you, polite and inquisitive.
But for some reason or another, you’re just not attracted to him or her.